Just eating ramen, but..

Hi, I'm Haruyo.

Yesterday my friend asked me to eat out for ramen in the morning.
I said "I'll make it at 7:00 p.m."
She said "I'll be leaving company at 7:00 p.m."
We agreed each other.

I know where her company is, so I expected what time she would show up when she did at 7:00 p.m. Then I got off one station before the stop then walked there for the meeting time. I texted her as soon as I arrived, but I didn't get any replies for an hour after I made it.

I started to think it might be better to go home if she was late longer, and texted her that. Suddenly she called me and said she was almost there. But at the same time I ordered ramen already at a ramen shop we were going to.

In the end I said "let's get together again sometime" and went home without seeing her. But after I was home I kept thinking about if it was the right choice.

I guess she might think she kept me waiting for ONLY an hour. But it needed me to be tough. I needed to be waiting for her without any notice from her just for an hour passed from the meeting time. If I got any messages, I could spend times going into a cafe and reading books.

You may say "You should have gone into anywhere like cafe or other restaurants instead of waiting." But I want to be relax once I go into them. I wanted to avoid I would leave there as soon as I got messages. 
I understand the situation that as you are leaving the company you get asked by others. I know it can't be helped. But if you even send a message for the other you keep waiting, their time will be saved. They can use those time effectively. It isn't that you can't but you do.

From this episode, I decided I would never forget I might take the other's time by my act.

By the way I'll tell you why I decided to go home. Because it was just eating ramen together why we met. If it was a drinking party, I would wait until she got there. Eating ramen only takes within 15 minutes, right? So I thought I spent too much time doing nothing just for eating ramen.

Bye!

 

Walking up this small hill!

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昨日午前中に友達にラーメンのお誘いをもらって、
私「19時には着けるよ」
友達「19時に会社出る」
で合致したのね。
私は友達の会社の場所を知っているから、なんとなくこのぐらいに着くかな?と予測して、それに合わせて電車に乗ったり歩いたりしたんだ。
でも駅に着いても友達からなにも連絡が来てなくて。
来ていない状態で1時間待って、「これ以上遅くなるなら帰ろうかな」と思って、そのように連絡したら、ちょうどもうすぐ着くってことが分かり。
結局、もうお店に入ってラーメン頼んだあとだったから、また今度ねーって言って終わったんだけど、果たしてこの行動で良かったのだろうか…と考えてしまった。。。

多分、友達からしたら1時間(しか)待たせてないのに…って思ったと思う。
けど、予め言われた時間から、連絡無しに待たされるほどきついものはない。一言連絡があれば、私はカフェに入って本を読んで時間をつぶしていたかもしれない。
一人でどこか入ってれば良かったのでは、と思われるかもしれないけど、入ってすぐ、「着いたよ」って言われて、バタバタと店を出るのも嫌なのである。
帰り際に引き留められた…そういうことは、よくあると思う。
しょうがないとも思う。けど、そこで、一言連絡を送ってくれれば、待たせている人の時間ももっと有効に使えたかもしれない。他人の時間を奪っているかもしれないという感覚、私は忘れないでおきたい。

ちなみに今回先に帰ってしまったのは、これが飲み会だったら待ったかもしれないけど、ラーメンを食べるという、15分程度で済むような用事のために時間を無駄にしたくない、ということです。

一言って大事だなぁ、と思った。

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